I keep seeing mocks and mimicries about marriages over the internet and also people(mostly unmarried) around, sometimes I enjoy them but most of the time I think how come shadi becomes barbadi for all those bachelors around who haven't even experienced the same!
Well I stepped into this beautiful journey around a year before and as said …my life is changed, yes it got way better.But how??
May be flowers , candle light dinners , trips and so on.May be yes BUT definitely not!
They are absolutely part of my beautiful wedding not the reason for a better life.These things are mere temporary happiness that comes and goes and of course you enjoy such things during bachelorhood(just the guy/girls you share flowers and candles keeps on changing :P)
I am mature, but my better half is life more sensible, smart and handsome(I could not take my eyes off when i saw him first , I was flattered).I always wondered how my life is going to change as I would work the same way , live a life with a guy i knew for some time before ,the only aspect I did not know was his family which place a major role in any marriage.I was not that excited to explore them but wasn't even scared that how good I will be as I believe in staying the way I am , be it at work or in my personnel life.It works most of the time.(Though with some challenges).
So here comes the changes I feel my marriage bought to me :
Smiles and more smiles, one big reason I married Sandeep was when I met him first he made me laugh a lot (which surely I can’t do to anybody, I am too bad at humour).This gave me a thought may be this could complete me and those laughs are still on. :) and the second big reason will come soon.
Everybody feels low at some point even though you become the strongest person on earth.I also go through some.There is always that one person around who still bring positivity ,makes my worst days happier ,makes me believe again in myself and brings me a constant encouragement but also makes me cry while teaching some of the tough subjects which sometimes get bounce(he is a tough teacher.) :D
A freedom to travel my parents more often that earlier because now I am living closer and a company for my dad who can talk to him endlessly(me and my father speaks less may be because I am more comfortable with Mom).
It takes time to know your in laws in your early stages and so even I took my time and they took theirs ,yes we had minor conflicts but both of us kept it going by smiling faces and slowly all vanished.I was touched when my mother -in -law kissed me while i was recovering from my health issues.(Not all Saas -bahu do saajish) She is way different from my mother but she has her own ways of loving us which I am still exploring :).With this new addition came a younger brother and I was happy about it since for the first time I feel elder to somebody :D,
The best part , I am bad at cooking and so nobody even asks(though they hope someday I will learn :P).
When some of my friends asks me some marriage advice , I give them one “Marry a good guy, everthing else will fall into place” and then comes the other question how should I know that, I knew it by one of his small gesture, the gestures was not made for me but a kind gesture to the waiter who was serving us dinner. Everytime he was coming to our seat he made him laugh as if they were old school friends or something.I though I could never do that.
So some small things tells you all!
So this was the second big reason I married Sandeep.
Yes we flight and have a conflicts in opinion but now we know how to handle those too and even the worst flights never gives me second thought about my marriage.I still believe this was the best decision in my life I ever made. I evolved as a person and did things I never thought I could do.
And last but not the least let me tell you one big effect ,now you are least interested in love life of your friends as you are too much busy with yours :D
A human being comes with imperfections which exists in our own family too but we just need to find one strong reason to hold on forever and embrace his/her imperfections too and love unconditionally as we love our family.
Marriage is something which can’t be described in some words, I tried sharing a part of mine , may be later will share some :)
