WRAPPING UP-2021

While thinking about how I should start this new year, I went back to my last year celebration and with that I could mesmerize the whole year which I wished to pen down. Indeed, this year was a blessing!

I started this year joining a new organization with tons of responsibility coming in hand. Slowly things were tarnishing my mental peace, but I could find my way out and came up with n number of options to select my choice and priority and entered a place that gave me everything I wished for, peace, skills, money, and grade. This taught me, everything that happens, happens for good.

Also, with God’s grace starting this year we could buy a piece of land on earth where going forward I might build my dream home. 😊

As I joined this blissful organization, after 2 months I came to know of something which I was not prepared and felt perplexed about the fact that I was 2 months pregnant. It was difficult to accept the fact but gradually when I heard heartbeat of the child during ultrasound session, I was way more protective for the child I was bearing and happy about the fact that my husband always wanted this, and I could give him this happiness.

Though I was pretty much scared about being pregnant but the journey till now is smooth and adventurous at the same time. Why I say it adventurous is I have been travelling like anything, went to my grandfather’s village after 6 long years, celebrated my birthday over there, some to and froes to my mothers and in-law’s place. Spend some great time by Goa side beaches along with my sister and brother-in-law. Hopefully next year I will be promoted to “Mother”.

People say you go through much of mood swings but what I realized during my phase of pregnancy it made me more fearless and way stronger for anything and everything in my life. I could be bolder to take risks now and more powerful to take stand for things I want in life.

I have seen people announcing their pregnancy in some or the other way to the world, mostly by some lovely maternity shoots. I wanted to announce the same but not the way to showcase skills of others rather though the skill I have of my own, my writing skills.

Every blessing in life come with its own challenges and struggles behind, so do I have of my own but at the end they are worth hustling for.

With world facing many challenges starting this year with corona, I feel blessed and thank god for keeping my family safe and secure throughout.

May this year come with tons of blessings and love for all.

Happy New year.

 It is difficult, yes it is! But if everyone starts thinking this particular way then who will marry these guys.

This was my exact statement when my sister asked why I wanted to marry an army officer.

We have been married for past 1.5 years. People have long distance relationships but yes I have long distance marriage.

When I see couples living together, waling together in parks, all those instant moments I miss him. I have the option to quit my job, pack my bags and run towards him.

Probably I will do this sometime down the lane knowing my true self, but not now.

I love working, and yes I want to continue working. I have always believed in embracing what I truly desire and love.

And yes I am lucky. Lucky in true sense. I know he will always support me and my decisions. Marriage is not easy. Especially when you don't live together. But we learn each day. With all our experiences, differences, fights, adventures we learn how to be supportive and just love each other irrespective of the geographical distance.

I married an Indian Army officer. I agreed for all the sacrifices. I just love him.

My dream Company!!

What’s your dream company, never thought about until I joined the corporate world and had people , seniors around me discussing the same. I kept thinking about the same what would be mine and never got answer for myself. What could it be!!

 I kept hearing about other’s dream company and though maybe I should also say the same company name when someone asks me, at least I should have an answer. A thought came to my mind, how people decide their dream company, by perks, by pay package or the work culture or any other thing I might even know. Never got courage to discuss same with any of my seniors thinking they would judge me.

Talking to myself I said: After I could not peruse my dream career, I always dreamt of earning money by any means, corporate was never dream, I was in corporate because that was the only path shown while growing up and when in college teachers also prepared us for that and made us available some companies where you can enter and earn bucks for survival after college life ends.

Money can’t be bar of dream as how much you earn is always less and hence no company gives you dream money .Gradually I realized I do not have dream company because I am not in my dream profession or maybe I am working for money sake .It’s just like I need money to buy achieve some materialistic things in life. Whosoever or any profession that fulfills my dream of a luxurious life is my dream company: D

Many would think this post such vague but I feel many would relate too. Manyof us working in corporate for survival and get answers to such questions by copying others.

Though  I am earning but still struggling to do what I wanted to and earn good money out of it(May be dreams and money doesn’t go hand in hand). May be some day I achieve that J

Anyways what is your dream company??

Settle for less ?

 

In India where still having only girl child is a matter of concern for parents and society , I was born lucky to take birth in family where my parents were happy with two girl child and did not attempt the third one for the sake of boy. I never realized how fortunate I was until I became adult and entered the society full of narrow thoughts of how bearing a boy is such big deal.

My parents never made me settle for less just because I was a girl and my security should be concerns as I see many families do. My parents always allowed me for all the school trips, later on college trips and later on independent trips with my friends .I were always given full freedom in my life though I never took that freedom for granted and did not break their trust.

As a parents of girl child, what they do for their daughters is complete selfless. Because of the the typical mindset of society they still lead their life with no expectations of getting back from the girl child especially once they get her married and so do my parents. They made my sis and I educated, we got into well settled and decent jobs and got us married to the boys of our choice. There also they fully supported us.

Once I got married I understood why society need “a boy child” so much , because their so called norms doesn’t give girls the same freedom a boy has to take care for their parents even though her parents did no less for her. When every parents wait for their child to come home on Diwali , they don’t expect that also since Indian society says a girl should celebrate festivals with in laws.

I bow my head to all such families who took this stand in their life and gave society a new direction.

India has come long ways on changing the old norms but some things are still not changing.

I ask, when our parents could bring such change in society where girls are being independent and their parents are playing the key role, why settle for norms which asks their parents to settle for less?